A woman says she plans to move out of her apartment and cancel the utility accounts after her roommate “invaded” her privacy — and she’s wondering if she’s perhaps being too harsh.
The 22-year-old shared her experience on Reddt’s “Am I the A——?” forum, where Redditors can seek advice about interpersonal issues. In her post, the woman explains that her 23-year-old roommate recently went into her room and looked through her things.
“She told me about it when I got back and I am glad she did, but I no longer feel safe living with her,” the original poster (OP) says. She added: “I told her that this isn’t okay and that I will be moving out. She reacted poorly to this and lashed out.”
The OP explains that “the situation was already tense” due to the fact that the OP is introverted and her roommate “would get mad when I just wanted to be in my room and do my own thing.”
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The woman says that she found a new apartment and will be moving in “a few weeks” and that the roommate — who will also be moving — will remain in the apartment for “about a month longer.”
The Reddit user adds that all of the utilities are in her name, and she ideally wants to transfer them over to her new place — which means her soon-to-be former roommate will need to set up her own accounts for the final month.
“Of course, I am still going to pay for my share of rent at our current apartment until the lease is over. I will also tell her that I will [transfer the utilities] beforehand so that she has plenty of time to set them all up,” the OP writes.
“WIBTA [would I be the a——] if I went through with transferring the utilities over?” she asks at the end of her post.
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Reddit users were quick to assure the OP that her plan is completely fair and she is in no way the “a——” in this situation.
“NTA [not the a——],” wrote one person. “You need to have utilities at your new place, so it is completely reasonable for you to move your accounts over to your new location.”
Someone else said: “NTA. The only deciding factor here is whether she has enough notice to get the accounts set up and switched over. Everything else is on her, and not your responsibility. Be aware that someone with boundary issues is probably going to give you a lot of grief for that, but you ignore them and leave them to their own devices.”
Several others agreed that the OP was acting well within reason — but also advised her to be extra cautious when she moves out.
“Make sure the office inspects when you move out before roommate has a chance to damage things,” one commenter wrote.
“[…] Take timestamped photos of the apartment when you leave, just in case she tries to blame you for any damages. People who snoop through your stuff and lash out when called out aren’t exactly the most trustworthy,” added another.
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