Teen Says Her Parents Called Her ‘Selfish’ for Selling Her Old Clothes for Money Instead of Giving Them to Younger Sister

A teenage girl says her parents called her “selfish” because she’s selling her old clothes instead of giving them to her younger sister — but she’s not convinced she did anything wrong.

The 15-year-old recently detailed the situation on the popular Reddit forum “Am I the A——?” In her post, she explained that her 11-year-old sister, Kaydence, often “begs” for her old clothes. However, the original poster (OP) also says that whenever Kaydence actually gets them, she “either manages to destroy them the first day she has them” or “wears them once and then they sit in her drawers for the rest of eternity.”

The OP — who also says that she and Kaydence end up “having a lot of clothes” as her parents take them shopping “every season” — goes on to explain that she decided to start selling the items she doesn’t wear anymore to friends and classmates.

“It […] works out since my parents don’t give us allowances so I have my own pocket money. I’ve made a lot of money by doing this and have over $100 saved,” she says.

However, the OP says that when her parents found out she was selling her clothes instead of giving them to her sister, they “got mad” and called her “selfish.” She says they also “demanded” she hand over the money she made selling the items so that they could buy Kaydence replacements.

They “tried digging through my room to find the money but luckily I was smart and hid it well,” she wrote.

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“Now I’m grounded and they said if I sell my clothes, I either have to give them the money or they will take my phone away. They also say they’re going to do backpack checks to make sure I’m not sneaking any clothes out,” the OP continued.

“I feel bad since they are my parents [and] I should probably listen to them,” the OP concludes before asking her fellow Redditors: “Am I the a——?”

The post had Reddit users divided, with some people saying they thought the OP was totally within her right to sell the clothes, while others said they understood where her parents were coming from.

“It will be an unpopular opinion, but YTA [you’re the a——],” wrote one person. “The clothes your parents buy are for you to wear, not for you to make a profit. You are not the one paying for the clothes, so it is not your decision what happens to them once you are no longer wearing them.” 

They added: “The reselling is not a bad idea, goes nicely with the reuse/recycle mentality, but you need your [parent’s] consent for [it] to be acceptable.”

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Others, however, said that once the clothes were given to the OP they should be hers to do as she likes once she no longer wants them.

“NTA [not the a——]. Your clothes, your business. Even if your parents did pay for them, they GAVE them to you, they are yours. The end. You’re not obligated to give your clothes away to someone who doesn’t take care of it,” someone said.