Love Is Blind’s Taylor and Garrett Recall ‘Lots of Sleepless Nights and Tears’ While Dealing with Their ‘Biggest Struggle’

Love Is Blind’s Taylor Krause and Garrett Josemans are reflecting on the most challenging moment in their relationship.

The couple appeared on Nick Viall’s The Viall Files podcast on Nov. 13 to discuss married life, exactly one year after they tied the knot. Looking back on the changes they made to be together, they revealed that deciding where to live was the one topic that felt “irreconcilable” at first.

“That was our biggest struggle this summer was working through that together and understanding we still love each other, wanna make this work, but these are real feelings that we’re feeling and trying to understand them and communicate them at the same time,” Garrett explained.

“I do think that that’s something a lot of couples deal with,” Taylor noted. “I know Love Is Blind tries to have people in the same city and kind of avoid not regionally having difficulties because I think that’s what happens for a lot of Bachelor people — that they’re not in the same city and then you transition into this big relationship really quickly.”

“That’s tough,” she added. “I was really hard for Garrett to tell me, [but] he had to be honest so that we could figure out what a compromise looked like and how to move forward together.”

On the show, fans only get to see a snippet of the conversations the couples have, and Taylor shared that she and Garrett had been going back and forth for weeks over whether they would be moving to San Diego, where she hoped to be (closer to her family), or stay on the east coast like Garrett wanted.

“There was lots of sleepless nights and tears, and it wasn’t easy,” she recalled. “I also luckily have a found a fantastic therapist that I’ve been working with for the past six months. And I think you can really decide at a certain point when you get married, is it for me, or is this about a ‘we?’ It’s really hard to describe.”

The quick transition of having less than a month before deciding whether to get married left Taylor and Garrett with more to figure out than most married couples, she explained. Ultimately, they decided to move to Washington D.C., which was a compromise despite Taylor’s initial disappointment.

“I think going from being super single to Love Is Blind to, like, the complete opposite, there is some whiplash associated with it,” she said, telling Garrett, “I know I gave you my non-negotiables going through it, and it really hurt when you were honest with me, but I would way rather you have been honest with me than, let’s say in three years, you freak out and you’ve been holding this in and we never really got the chance to figure it out together.”

“Because, not to be super deep, but you can’t predict what happens with life,” she continued. “You just wanna find a partner that you, like, figure it out with. After I grieved it and figured it out with you and had a lot of difficult conversations and feelings, I think we got to the other side. And we’re still definitely figuring it out.”

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All seven seasons of Love Is Blind are now streaming on Netflix.